The Wellness Boulevard Community is officially moving out of the Facebook group we've been using since our launch and into a new home of our own. On a platform called Mighty Networks.
Why get off social media and Facebook in particular?
Mostly because Facebook can be a MASSIVE distraction and time seems to disappear when we're on there. (Anybody else easily get sucked down the rabbit hole?) But even more so because The Comparison Trap is real.
Like really real.
As in, have you ever been chugging along getting things done, making things happen, and feeling on top of the world... but then all of a sudden the wind is knocked out of your sails? All of a sudden you look around and everyone is doing great, handling things well, and moving fast... well everyone except you.
You start to think...
"I can't post that, it's not good enough."
"I can't share that, it's not good enough."
"I can't talk about that, I don't know enough."
"I better not start that, I haven't learned enough."
"Oh, never mind, I'm not good enough."
Perfection with a side of shame and sparked effortlessly by highlight reels, comparisons, and an overload of information we never needed to know.
I know firsthand that social media can give us opportunities. But, it can also take from us... things like happiness, confidence, and action. It can be frustrating, exhausting, painful, and overwhelming.
Whether because you're comparing your life to someone else's (or at least what they decide to share with you) -- or because you're trying to join a conversation yourself.
I'll give you an example of the latter.
A while back, I was at a soccer game with my husband and his coworkers. It was a beautiful day and I wanted to post on IG about it. Well, if you went to my Instagram now, then you'd see no such post. Because I sat there on that beautiful day not watching the soccer game and not chatting with anyone around me. I sat there for half an hour captioning my photo, posting the photo, and deleting it.
I spent a half an hour of that beautiful day battling with...
"You're not cool enough to post that!"
"Oh come on, stop trying to be cool."
"Kelly, no one cares about this. Literally no one."
"Look at you - you've spent 30 minutes trying to write a few stupid sentences on IG!"
"Oh and now you're not even going to post? Yep, you officially suck."
A fear of being rejected. Embrassed. Mocked. Alone.
These are some of the things that come up when we spend time on social media. We subconsciously start to feel afraid of social media confirming what we already think to be true... that we're not good enough and neither is what we have to share.
We're hopping off Facebook because I want you to feel lit up through this community -- not weighed down by it (or by the platform you have to hop on to get to us). And I believe social media doesn't often support those feelings.
Research by Harvard says "The more you use Facebook, the worse you feel" -- and a study from Yale confirms that time on social media decrease health & happiness. This study says that, Facebook seems to offer a way to connect, but it often presents the opposite result. Another study talks about how seeing everyone else's highlight reels can be linked to depressive symptoms and another states that Facebook causes a decrease in mood (even though we hop on these platforms because we expect the opposite).
This is in direct contradiction to the goals of The Wellness Boulevard, so I want to do something about it.
I'm taking The Wellness Boulevard Community off social media -- and onto a platform of our own -- to take a small stance for our mental health. And the fact that I believe it's just as important as our physical health.
Will you join us? Join the waitlist and see if The Wellness Boulevard is right for you.