If it isn’t working, try something different. How many of you have tried to take on the Whole30...just to “fall off the wagon” before 30 days is up? 🙋🏼 How many of you have done the Whole30 (or paleo or any other “health-based” diet) multiple times...without seeing any of the incredible results that were promised? 🙋🏼
If your hand is raised, you’re not alone. And, let me make this clear: You didn’t fail the diet. The diet failed you.
Because, excluding the fact that diets -- which, inside The Wellness Boulevard, we define as an externally-driven way of eating, adopted to give a false sense of control, that single-handedly informs behavior and greatly influences internal worth.) don’t work...
Maybe you’re not quite mentally, emotionally, or soulfully ready for something this restrictive or intense. (It’s taken me YEARS to get ready for something like this and adopt this way of living WITHOUT a diet mentality.) This is important, because this type of program or diet can be extremely stressful to the body and even counteract the physical benefits we're trying to achieve.
Maybe, this simply isn’t the diet and lifestyle for you and your body. (Seriously.) Or maybe, you're taking on the diet to "sort of" work on your health, but to mostly help you lose weight. (I've been there and one that.)
Or maybe even, this type of plan is too stressful for the season of life you’re in (such as recovery or big transition) — or it simply doesn’t agree with what you believe. (Like those who don’t believe in eating meat feel the need to eat it because it’s one of the only things “allowed” — or those who don’t believe in diets follow a restrictive plan because the experts say you should.)
Taking care of your body - and practicing wellness - isn’t about adopting a specific set of rules or regulations. It’s about having a relationship with your body and with your entire being. Physical. Mental. Emotional. Soulful. Meaning that if something isn’t working, it’s for a reason and that reason needs to be heard.
Let’s stop meeting posts about a failed Whole30 - or paleo or AIP or even chronic illness - with MORE PHYSICAL THINGS TO DO. (Like take out another food or eat at a different time.) That clearly isn’t working. Because sometimes, and for some people, those plans aren’t right because they’re inherently stressful, shameful, and downright miserable. We need to open the conversation for different approach to achieve our goals. To find healing. To feel good. To live life the way we want.
P.S. I want to make it clear that I'm not a doctor and don't recommend anything specifically for anyone.
We're all different and all take different foods and lifestyle choices to feel great. That being said, I do believe there is support for eating whole, real foods (such as the paleo or AIP diet). So, if this is what you've noticed too and are trying to support your body - I get it! And, I applaud you.
However, way too often, these foods and lifestyle plans are adopted through a diet mentality -- to lose weight, control body shape and size, to guarantee health or survival, etc. (This is much of what I'm talking about above.) Through my experience and research, the latter simply doesn't work in the long run. It's stressful, shameful, and pretty miserable. (And, there's already enough shame in the health and chronic illness world.)
So, for those of us who still need to recover from diet mentality or for those of us who simply don't enjoy or benefit from this type of plan, there needs to be a different way to approach health and healing (even and especially if one has an autoimmune disease or chronic illness). This isn't so much driven by behavior changes as it's driven by mindset shifts. We've got to look at our entire being - physical, mental, emotional, and soulful - and make choices out of love rather than fear! Learn more inside The Wellness Boulevard.